Tap Away the Belief that Fixing People is Love
We are taught in our society that fixing people’s physical, emotional, and spiritual problems is love. This belief usually attaches itself to the masculine energy, so we have a lot of hero men attempting to save the day by fixing women’s problems. On the flip side, you have women who may resent being fixed, and thus pull up their own masculine energy to do it all for themselves. However, this is just two sides of the same coin, for both have the belief that fixing is love!
I would like to state that from a Oneness perspective, there is nothing broken and that nobody needs to be fixed. We are all on the journey that we have chosen to be on and in the midst of the lessons that we desire to learn. By fixing other people’s problems we are perpetuating our own codependent need for love and enabling their limiting beliefs. This is not love, this is selfishness.
By removing this limiting belief, you will eradicate yet another coping mechanism that you may have utilized to secure what you thought was love—which in turn will force you to deal with your root childhood traumas. It may also free you up from the burden of needing to rescue your loved ones and humanity, while also clearing your need to be rescued from your circumstances. Lastly, you may break the association that you have which believes that masculinity is demonstrated through fixing things for people; for it is NOT a masculine trait but a stereotype that has harmed both men and women.
I would like to add that there is nothing wrong with assisting others out of a sense of compassion and divine guidance. However, this is done out of a purely loving perspective without the need to make them better. Sometimes compassion can say no and let people suffer through their lessons until they learn them. We help others the most when we are an empowering presence in their life and a trusted advisor, not a helicopter smother lover who hovers in to make it all better.
Let’s tap away the limiting belief that “fixing things” is love in the video below:
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Well said
. So True: “Fixing is not love.”
Thanks Zhaquline!!! XOXO
Great tap. I also used to attribute this as a male trait until I realized that I (and my friends) also do it with each other! We have a different style than the men do, but we’re still trying to be rescuers in our own way. So, this tap is excellent for both genders.
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Yes, women most definitely do it too, probably as a result of learning it from Dad, lol. Naw, in all actuality, you are correct, the more that we’ve gained gender equality in the world, the more this transcends the sexes. I still see it as coming from a masculine energy in both men and women though, so that is why I came from this angle. Thanks for the wonderful comment Ange!!! xoxo
I agree it comes from a more yang place. Loved it!
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So Nathan, I’d like to ask you a quick question please…I want to refer this one towards masculine men……Now that you don’t need to fix things
What else will you/men incorporate into your world in order for you to feel like a man? For men to listen….it is not their first natural instinct, and you talk about stability, but what specifically does stability mean to men. Thanks Nathan, I always look forward to your posts and videos.
Very good questions Sarah, thank YOU for asking them! I can not speak for all men, however I can speak for my own way of relating with women and world. For me, I do not want to fix my women, for I see them as perfect just as they are, in every situation; I would rather experience them in every way, feel and vibe them, let their radiant energy charge me up in all situations, even in their tears and anger. And as for what masculine stability means, it has to do with being a man of purpose, one who places his purpose above all things, even his woman…and what greater purpose is there than love? Unconditional love is so stable, because it does not need approval, security, or separation to be felt, it just is, no matter what is going on in a person’s life. Unconditional love always seeks the highest good of all, even if that highest good is in saying “no” or “not yet”. For more, check out the book “The Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida, you can find the link in my Store on this site. Thanks again Sarah, have a wonderful new week! xoxo <3