Remove Limiting Beliefs About Relationships!

Written by Nathan on December 22, 2010 - 11 Comments

In my last blog entry, I reposted an article by Kute Blackson about finding your “ONE” true soulmate. In it, he speaks about recognizing yourself as the ONE, instead of looking at others.

I don’t believe that your soulmate is something you ATTRACT, rather is something that you ARE. Your soulmate is simply an expression of your Self. As you connect more with your soul, that perfect mate will come to you as a mirror manifestation of who and what you are. It is not about finding your soulmate, but removing the barriers, illusions and blocks to the realization of yourself as Love.

He speaks of “removing the barriers, illusions, and blocks” as the means to realizing this truth. Without the processes of letting go, with EFT or another modality, this truth may never be fully realized within you.

When we have a belief, that belief creates an expectation within ourselves. When an expectation goes unmet, we get angry, which is the feeling of something or someone being “unfair to us”. We may also feel guilty for not meeting those expectations, which is the feeling of us being “unfair to ourselves, others, and God”, because we didn’t measure up to the standard that the belief placed on us. The way to listen to those feelings, instead of suppressing them, is to track them to their core belief and then change your perspective…i.e., neutralize the limiting belief.

What obstacles and limiting beliefs could possibly be blocking your soulmate energy and causing you anger and guilt? Here are a few that come to mind:

The Disney fairy tales about being the prince or princess and living happily ever after.
Religious and/or spiritual dogmas about “to death do us part”.
Societal beliefs about length being the determining factor of success in a relationship (growth is a better measure of success in a relationship, imo).
Societal beliefs about the roles that a significant other must abide by while in a relationship (conditional love).
Critical parent (inner) voice stating that “I’m not worthy of being loved”.
Self worth and value.

Performing EFT over these limiting beliefs will not prevent you from having a marriage or long term relationship, but it will open you up to all of the possibilities, not just those that you were trained to believe as a child. In truth, Love is limitless, and it is we who limit it with our beliefs and social norms. You will be more open to all that love has to offer, not just what you were programmed to receive.

I encourage you to take the time to tap through the items above. Try stating the limiting belief in all it’s various forms, while acknowledging the feelings of guilt or anger that are evoked. Then give yourself the “possibility” that the belief is limiting and not true. And finally, allow yourself to believe the truth, that love is limitless and possible in many different forms, not just those that you were conditioned to believe as a child.

Meridian Tapping is a wonderful way to peel back your limiting beliefs and replace them with new, more freeing perspectives. I look forward to hearing your opinions and experiences with this topic, please feel free to leave a comment below!

Tags: anger, eft, emotional, emotional freedom technique, emotional language, guilt, letting go, limiting beliefs, secret language of feelings, tapping

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Kristy

February 15, 2011 at 1:38 pm

Beautiful Nathan! I love it!

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- Nathan Martin EFT
  
  March 20, 2011 at 10:27 pm
  
  Thanks Kristy!!! Glad you enjoyed it!
  Nathan Martin EFT recently posted..Heal Childhood Traumas with EFT
  
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Wendi DuBach

March 26, 2011 at 5:28 pm

U Rock!!! This should be the topic for one of our sessions. It’s easy to say and it makes perfect sense but, saying it, believing it, and feeling it are completely different.

Thanks for being WONDERFUL you!!!

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- Nathan
  
  March 26, 2011 at 7:14 pm
  
  Of course Wendi! Glad you enjoyed the article! I look forward to our next EFT session together! Be well my wonderful friend!
  
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  - Linda Woods
    
    July 21, 2011 at 3:09 pm
    
    Dearest ,
    
    Wow , I cant express it but I will try. I was surffing the internet and from out of the blue the voice in my head told me to look up MY DARKEST NIGHT. and i came across your site and as I started to read your info. I started to cry. realizing that I have had it wrong all these years. I feel very humble as to how I once thought. I thank you for being our guide and now , I feel like i have my voice back. I will contiune to read your work thank you again.
    
    Thank you from my Soul
    Linda
    
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    - Nathan
      
      July 21, 2011 at 7:27 pm
      
      Linda, I am honored to read your comment! Please let me know if you have any questions, or if there is any way that I can serve you on your journey towards emotional wholeness and unconditional love. I have many incredible insights to share in my articles, I am glad that you get to be blessed by them! Be well Linda!
      
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Janice Meznarich

July 23, 2011 at 6:41 am

Well written, Nathan!

Yes, I had the mindset of “hopeful romantic” for most of my life and now know how limiting that can be. The pressure you put on yourself and your partner is almost like asking them to be your own person “god” in human form. Wow- talk about pressure I have a healthy vision now. When the warm connections come along, that is great! All the stuff in between is fine too! I do not need a twenty or thirty year contract to be successful at love- my soulmate energy is doing well without the paper.lol

I have some friends through a divorce support group and mentioned your site on a discussion board the other day. Having the information that you have shared can make the healing process easier if we take the time to look a little deeper.

In the book, ACIM- A Course in Miracles, they talk about the “special relationship” and it really does bring the whole issue into perspective. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us! It is an honor to be on this path with you my friend ;D

(((Hugs))) 2 YOU!!!

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- Nathan
  
  July 25, 2011 at 8:46 pm
  
  That is great to hear Janice! It is nice to have friends who are moving along in their evolution from unhealthy to healthy ways of relating! Also, thanks for sharing my site with your friends, that is an honor to be referred to by YOU! *big hugs*
  
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Liz

January 17, 2012 at 12:02 pm

Dear Nathan,

I am so thankful for our connection. Your insight is helping me change the actions in my life.

Namaste,
Liz

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- Nathan
  
  January 24, 2012 at 4:14 pm
  
  I am grateful too Liz, and so appreciative that you are gaining benefits from it! Thank YOU and KEEP on tappin! xoxo
  
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