Increase the Effectiveness of EFT with a Feelings Wheel!
All feelings, not just the “positive” ones, are valid and what make us human; to deny our negative feelings, is to deny our very nature. Feelings are messengers that communicate our beliefs, limiting or otherwise, to us. So if we experience the negative feeling of being mad, it is letting us know that we are feeling powerless, since the feeling of being powerful is the opposite of feeling mad. At the root of every negative feeling is a childhood trauma, and the story that we created about our trauma to cope with it, prior to the age of eight. Listen to the negative feelings, heal their associated trauma and limiting beliefs, and then we are able to shift into the positive feeling in that aspect of our life.
A feelings wheel (click on the image to the left for a full size version or subscribe to our newsletter) is an amazing tool that can be easily utilized in your EFT sessions, even if you’re a beginner! A feelings wheel displays the full range of human feelings, both the positive and the negative ones, which matches our reality today. So often we suppress our negative feelings and pretend to display only the positive ones, however, these are not to be shamed, but to be fully experienced, listened to, and understood. The positive and negative feelings work much like a yin-yang symbol, as each feeling has an opposite feeling to match it In any given aspect of your life, if you are feeling sadness you are not feeling joy, if you are feeling powerful you are not feeling mad, and if you are feeling peace you are not feeling fear, conversely, if you are feeling joy you are not feeling sadness, if you are feeling mad you are not feeling powerful, and if you are feeling fear you are not feeling peaceful.
To use the feelings wheel in conjunction with EFT, first identify the issue that you are dealing with. Next, drill down to the feeling(s) associated with your issue. Once identified, find each feeling on the Feelings Wheel and notice the core feeling it is associated with. In the picture to the right, we’ll use “Insecure” as an example feeling, and “Scared” would be the core associated feeling. We would then use the feelings of insecure and scared in our setup statement and when tapping through the points.
The next step is to find the converse feelings, the feelings directly opposite of the feeling you originally identified. Insecure would then be two up and on the right inside ring of the wheel, and thus the converse feeling would be two down and on the left inner side. In this case, the converse feelings are “Thoughtful” with a root feeling of “Peaceful”. These are the feelings that you really want to experience in the moment, the ones that you are unable to enjoy because of your insecurity.
A setup statement would then look like this:
Even though I feel insecure when my mother shows my friends pictures of me when I was little, I choose to honor my feelings, and realize that I am just a little scared of what everyone will think of me. Instead, I know that I really desire to feel that my mom is more thoughtful and considerate of my feelings, so that I can rest easy and feel peace, but I’m just not feeling that right now. In spite of that, I choose to love, accept, and forgive myself.
Interested in an upgraded feeling wheel? Check out our Duality to Unity Feelings Wheel HERE! Sign up for our newsletter and get a free eBook, a Free With EFT tapping worksheet, and a printable Feeling Wheel, see the sign up form in the right column. How has the Feelings Wheel helped you in your EFT sessions? I’d love to hear your examples in the comments below, be well!
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