Heal Childhood Traumas with EFT
I work regularly with clients who were abused as children, sexually or otherwise. It is an unfortunate reality that many children in the world are rendered powerless by adults in a position of authority over them. When we look at the feelings wheel, the feeling of being powerful is directly opposite of anger. So when a child is molested or abused, they are rendered powerless, which means they are full of anger. However, as a result of the fight, flight, or freeze self defense mechanism utilized by the primitive brain, this anger isn’t allowed to be processed by the child and is “frozen” into their programming. (For a detailed explanation of the fight, flight or freeze response, I highly recommend visiting Rick Wilkes’ Trauma Relief Center at ThrivingNow.com.)
There is a limiting belief that is instilled in a child that is rendered powerless by an adult who has abused them, it is “our power is not our own, and if somebody asks me for something, I better give it to them before they take it from me by force”. And so with each person that makes a request of the victim in life, as a child or an adult, they will feel powerless to say no to them. And after they do say yes, they will feel angry, as if they had just been violated for the first time. The victim has no choice in their mind but to always say yes. This will leave the victim in a perpetual state of feeling powerless and taken advantage of, resentful of all of their loved ones and close friends.
From my previous blogs and from the book “The Secret Language of Feelings” by Calvin D. Banyan, we are told that anger is an emotion that states “what is going on here is unfair”. So then, whenever an abuse victim gives anything to somebody in a position of trust, they feel they have been treated unfairly, even for a normal or modest request! They will feel taken advantage of in almost every situation, no matter how trivial. It is a unfortunate way to live life, to perpetually be frozen with the belief that those in a position of trust are always taking from them, even their own children!
Two things must be done with trauma, first, it must be relived in some way while tapping through the points. There are several tapping methods out there, such as the Tearless Trauma Technique (TTT), where the victim watches the events from the past on a TV set instead of attempting to relive it in the first person. There is also Rick Wilkes’ Inner Tapping technique, where the adult taps on their inner child while they physically tap on themselves. Lastly, there are times where rewriting the story is effective, where the adult comes in and rescues their inner child from the traumatic event, instilling a feeling of safety and love where fear and powerlessness once resided. I flow in and out of all three methods as my client’s needs dictate.
Secondly, the limiting belief causing the anger must also be neutralized. The easiest way to dissipate anger is to change the limiting belief that it is stemming from. As stated earlier, anger is a feeling that states “I think what is going on here is unfair”. But, if we really are the architect of our reality, if we really do own our destiny, then all of life really is fair, even horrible traumas. So if we are angry, that means that we have a limiting belief that causes us to think that we really do not own our life. But the actuality is, in this moment, we do own our life, even though as a child we did our best to survive by being compliant and powerless. So then the purpose of anger is to point out a limiting belief to us, and thus, part of the cure for this feeling of powerlessness is to tap on the limiting belief “our power is not our own, and if somebody asks me for something, I better give it to them before they take it from me by force”.
EFT, the Emotional Freedom Technique, can unfreeze this traumatic event in the animal brain and retrain the limiting belief. I have found that healing of childhood trauma can come in as little as one session, but may take much longer, especially in cases where the trauma was ongoing for years or more. Suppressed memories can add a degree of difficulty, but are still relatively easy to unfreeze with the right guidance.
Although I believe in the power of tapping to heal these highly charged traumatic events, and witness them regularly in my own practice, I highly encourage the reader to seek the counsel of an experienced and trained practitioner or licensed therapist. Attempting to take on these childhood sexual or other abuses without the proper training is like opening a Pandora’s box of highly charged emotions. Once opened, the practitioner better be prepared to deal with the constant flow of volatile feelings.
As an experienced EFT Life Coach, I am adept at handling even the most volatile cases of childhood trauma. I am here if you, a friend, or loved one desires relief from traumatic childhood experiences. Please contact me via the form on my coaching page. And remember, emotional freedom can be just a few taps away!
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