Clear Your Phobias in under 10 Minutes with EFT!

On several occasions, I have run into clients and friends who were struggling with a deep seated and intense phobia.  Often times, these phobias can dominate their lives and their relationships.  But can a long standing phobia really be cleared up in only ten minutes?  Yes, and I have had the experience several times!  Because the feeling of fear is so intense with phobias, they are often the easiest issues to clear up with EFT and tapping.

I recommend these steps to overcoming an intense phobia:

1.  Tap With A Partner
Find a partner, coach, or therapist to help you with your phobia.  A partner is often more objective and willing to dive into the phobia then you are, as you have grown accustomed to living with the phobia for your entire lifetime.  Leaning on your EFT partner’s intuition will make success more likely.

2.  Trigger the Phobia
Being in the middle of the phobia by feeling the panic and fear is the best way to start your tapping process.  Ask your partner to simulate or remember the raw feelings of the phobia, so that they are smack dab in the middle of the feelings.  Be careful to allow them an out, as you do not want them in a proverbial corner where they could hurt themselves or others.  You want them to feel the feelings, not lose their mind.  Rate the feeling of fear between zero and ten, with ten being overtly triggered and emotional, and zero being a feeling of absolute well being and safety.

3.  Tell the Original Story
Let them tell the story from their first memory that the phobia and associated fear stems from.  This memory will usually be before the age of seven, and will be very traumatic and life threatening, at least to a small child.  Do not worry about any stories that are after the age of seven, as they will not be the original cause.  When the original story is healed, all other stories that are similar will melt away.

5.  Progress Through the Tapping Phases
Start with the fear, the panic, and the closeness to death.  Help them to feel the feelings as much as possible while tapping through the points, even retelling the story from the perspective of the little child who was traumatised.

I feel afraid….

I could die….

I feel abandoned by (someone close to me)….

I feel panicked by (insert memory here)….

Why aren’t my (loved ones) protecting me….

4.  Honor the Feeling of Fear
Fear is the feeling associated with phobias, so listen to the message that is sending and honor it.  According to “The Secret Language of Feelings”, by Calvin Banyan, fear states “something bad is going to happen to me or someone I love”.  The fear was a defense mechanism to keep them safe from certain death, at least certain death through the eyes of a small child.  Honor it.  Thank it.  Let it know that it is ok to be afraid, and that anybody in a similar situation would have had similar issues.  Start using words like “maybe” and “possibly” in association with the feeling and story.

Maybe I could listen to the message my fear is sending me and honor it….

Maybe I could thank my fear for protecting me….

Maybe I could allow myself to say good-bye to the fear, even if just for today….

It’s a possibility, but maybe I still need the fear….

But maybe I could let it go….

Maybe I am safe right now, and nothing is going to happen to me now….

Maybe I am completely and utterly safe and have nothing to be afraid of….

5.  Have Them Connect with Their Inner Child
Ask them to go back in time to protect and save the little them from whatever situation that traumatized them.  They can intervene assertively and without violence in the situation.  Have them continue tapping on the points as they rewrite the traumatic event with a more beneficial and safe experience.  Have them pick up the little them in a loving fashion, hold them, kiss them, and protect them.  Ask them to say things like:

I am always here for you, to protect you and keep you safe….

I can understand why this would be scary, don’t worry, you’re safe now….

I love you unconditionally, you’re safe now….

If an adult was involved, have the adult them escort the perpetrator out of the room or scene in an assertive and yet non-violent fashion.  This is an important aspect, as it demonstrates through actions to their little them that they are important enough to protect in deed and word, not just word.

6.  Finish Up with Loving Self Affirmations
This is the final stage and locks in the healing of the traumatic event.  This usually sounds like:

I deeply and profoundly love, accept, and forgive myself….

Do this several times through the points, using your intuition and variations as necessary.

7.  Rate, Rinse, and Repeat if Necessary
Lastly, attempt to trigger the phobia again, and then have them rate their level of fear and panic between zero and ten.  If it is not a zero yet, ask them what feeling they are now associating with the trauma and address it.  If there is a particular spot in their body that is feeling it, give them the opportunity to release the fear from the cells in their body and the body location.  Use this process until the phobia rates as a zero.

Did this process help you or someone you love?  Please let me know, I would love to hear your success stories!

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